Here are my answers -- sometimes - never - maybe - it all depends. You may think that's an indecisive response, but few things have concrete, no diversion, answers, especially when it's your future and financial security. You will assume this is a great time to interview. It begins by thinking about FOOD and knowing it's FREE to you. But there might be a "dark" side too. Both the interviewer and the interviewee have risks in this career game. Since all of us are trying, wanting to win, it has some high stakes for all who get involved in the process. Interviewer says..... "How about us having lunch to talk about your career decision?" Smooth; completely innocent; what can go wrong is the reply coming through from our subconscious mind. Sure, we remind ourselves about the "not-to" list, but so often we get comfortable and layed back when consuming delectable morsals. Be on YOUR guard every second -- Never relax your guard when you are seeking a new position with any employer. Most interviewing PROS know that "over lunch" is always a good time for candidates to relax and drop their guard without even thinking about it... to their ultimate regret. Our true self - who you really are - requires your BEST behavior interacting with the wait-staff; the cashier; everyone you encounter in the restaurant or private club [if you're so fortunate!] The point is... even if the INTERVIEWER host lets his/her guard down with small talk or orders a "drink" it's NOT a good idea for YOU to follow suit. You're there to talk about your qualifications and expertise, to get to know the person, the company, to make a lasting impression. [at least, that's my opinion!] It's been long ago, but I remember vividly meeting two guys from the NEW YORK office of a national firm. My Interview was held in a motel room and their first question was... "want a beer?" Actually, I didn't "drink" so it was an easy NO thanks. I'm not sure if this was a test or not, they enjoyed a couple themselves, but I was sure [driving home] that the job was NOT going to be mine. To make a long story, short... YES, I did get the job at least for the next 5 years when this BIG firm decided to "down-size" and get rid of the Regional Manager - ME!! Best thing they could have done and as Paul Harvey says, I'll tell you the "rest" of the story someday. Be sure to order foods eaten with utensils, not your hands, so you'll avoid embarassment or reveal poor eating habits. It may sound trivial but it might just be a deciding factor in the interviewing process. Another irritation today is cell phones. If you have one, leave it in YOUR car and let calls go to your answering service or back home at your message center. This is just a common courtesy when having lunch, dinner, etc. with anyone. There's more... lots of FREE help on our websites below. |
