What may surprise you is that swingers actually report a better body image from the experience. By putting themselves on display for someone other than their partner, their image of their self changes dramatically. But why is this? All Shapes And Sizes If youre going a lot of swingers clubs or events, then youre bound to realize that no one is perfect. In fact, youll see that many swingers are just your normal, everyday people. Were not all models or erotic dancers. Were teachers and retirees, factory workers and secretaries. Were just your everyday people who like to enjoy swinging. And by looking around and realizing that anyone and everyone can be beautiful, youre well on your way to seeing how you fit into the grand scheme of things. Just fine, thank you. Breaking The Stereotypes When you realize that other swingers can look just like you, you begin to see that what is beautiful isnt what weve been told necessarily. What is pleasing to one person doesnt apply to everyone. Men dont always like big breasts or flat stomachs. Women arent searching for hard abs or massive shoulders. Each of the genders can appreciate the other for who they are. When youre accepting your role in a swinging relationship, youre showing another couple who you really are. And its your personality and your willingness to share yourself with others that really turns people on. Its not the size of your waist or the lift in your buttocks; its the fact that you love your partner so much that you want to share everything with him or her. Getting Past Sexual Hang-Ups Although you may have guessed this, experienced swingers report that they have less sexual anxiety than they did before they started. If youve ever thought about how this or that looks when youre in such and such position, add in another person and youve got a whole other set of likes and dislikes to manage. But once you realize that you can be enjoyed and that you can please someone besides your partner, then the sky is the limit on what else you can do. Seeing The Strength As you progress in your swinging relationship, you will find that you constantly have feelings of overwhelming love for your partner. Not only have you both conquered some fears (probably), but youve also been able to share yourselves with another loving couple. Realizing that your commitment is strong enough to start and continue such a transition will solidify your marriage or relationship. And that in turn makes you feel better about yourself. You walk with your head held up high and with an air of confidence. You are an amazing person with an amazing partnerand no one can touch that. Your body image will be positively affected by a swinging lifestyle, but thats not all you can do. Focus on the good aspects of your body and celebrate that on your own. And soon youll hear that little voice in your head tell you youre hot all the time. |